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Drug addiction and what I’ve found on the subject
August 2, 2013, 7:00 pm
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I have been asked to please continue blogging by many readers, concerned that my schedule for this has been somewhat lacking.  So, with that said, I’ll begin a regular schedule about emerging patterns and unhealthy habits … and even sometimes the extraordinary steps that addicts will go to, to continue injecting, while claiming ignorance about the facts.

After a five-year tenure as Sanctuary House’s Executive Director, it has given unique insights into tall-tale signs of an addict using,  I hope to share, each week, more of the signs, suggestions to some of the questions asked of us, as a long-term sober living facility and the adaptation of our hands-on approach.

Fist and foremost, as the father of two grown sons, a short message to parents.

If your child, whether he be 16 or 65 has more than a peckish flirtation with drugs, then the strategy for intervention is very different and often comes with a realization that the “continued financial assistance” is NOT helping, but rather giving the addict a temporary reprieve from responsibility or accountability. This is a vicious cycle that will continue until the parent is at their wits end or something major in the situation that forces the problem to the forefront, usually serious injury or death.

Sometimes, as parents, we are forced to admit that with the best of intentions for our children, tough decisions must be made.  In some cases, the decision to allow your child to hit bottom is as painful for the parent as the child.  My message first goes to mothers.

All mothers are incredible gifts to the world.  You endure incredible pain to bring life to your son/daughter and it is a pain that a mother must make for the sake of her family.  The same holds true to save the life of that child.  The painful, but necessary step often will be a pivotal moment in the difference in the destruction of the addiction or the destruction of the child, never knowing the missed opportunities that come with a child that has beaten this plague.

If the primary goal of any parent is to save their child and if early intervention is no longer an option, the addict finds himself caught up in a system that is driven by the amount of insurance that the addict has, rather than the level of care needed to assist in preventing relapse after relapse, transforming the 30-day rehab into an “alternate plan” when things don’t go as the actively using addict expects.  This, without a doubt leads to an expectation that 5, 10, even more visits is simply a part of the process, while precious time is lost and deterioration of the addict’s physical health, as well a steady march into increased psychological/mental issues that continue, if left unchecked.

Please feel free to ask your questions, online.  Meanwhile I’ll continue to share valuable information from the “front lines” of the battle for lives in the war of addiction.  Please feel free to visit our website to donate, to continue our mission of saving children and those that seek help.

Jared C. Cashner, CCR

Executive Director

Sanctuary House of S. Florida, Inc.

a 501(c)(3) organization serving those in need.

116 NW 25th Street

Wilton Manors, FL 33311


The long road to The Sanctuary



Insert: Jared Cashner and James Sanzeri, founders of Sanctuary House of South Florida
Insert: Jared Cashner and James Sanzeri, founders of Sanctuary House of South Florida

Wilton Manors Couple Opens Center for LGBT Alcoholics, Drug Addicts


After five years of struggling, one couple manages to turn an abandoned building into a promising recovery center for the LGBT community.

They’re sitting next to each other in a crack house, holding hands. Their matching engagement rings glisten — the same engagement rings they pawned off five years ago when they decided to buy that crack house.

Over the years, Jared Cashner and James Sanzeri have sold their car, emptied out their retirement funds, and pawned their engagement rings all to keep and maintain a property at the corner of North Andrews Avenue and NW 25 Street.

They called it the Sanctuary House.

Their goal in opening the Sanctuary House of South Florida was to provide a safe and stable environment for men and women in the LGBT community struggling with drug or alcohol abuse.

The Sanctuary House takes in people who want to recover from drug and alcohol abuse and offers them recovery meetings, therapy sessions, organized doctor visits, and a place to call home.

Cashner walks a brick path through a garden leading towards the front of the Sanctuary House. A large tree with branches stretching over the walkway drops bright, pink flowers into a little pond. There are gardens everywhere, practically around every corner. Cashner loves the garden setting. They make the Sanctuary House seem tranquil.

He takes a seat on the porch swing on top of the marble floors and rocks back and forth.

It’s hard to believe that a little less than five years ago, this was not at all how his sanctuary looked.

With cracked floors, broken down walls, and no doors, this abandoned building became a ground for squatters and drug dealers.

“It was a nightmare when we first bought it,” Cashner said.

Cashner and Sanzeri purchased the abandoned property in December 2008 and turned it into a promising recovery center. It began with just three clients. It has since grown to a volunteer staff of 13 and up to 41 clients at a time. The Sanctuary House managed to raise $250,000 in 2012.

“We’ve come a long way since the broken down property we first bought,” Cashner said.

Wayne Campanele takes a seat next to Cashner on the porch swing. Campanele has been a client at the Sanctuary House since March 2012. He has been in and out of rehab centers since he was 13 years old. This is the first time he feels at home.

“And I didn’t even mean to come here,” he said. Campanele’s drug abuse problems got him into trouble. A judge told him that he could either go to jail or enter into a program. Cashner stood up in the courtroom and raised his hand, “I’ll take him,” he said.

“I couldn’t let him go to jail,” Cashner reminisces. “I know how hard it is, so I had to be the parent with the steel-toed boots.”

The minimum stay for a client at the Sanctuary House is four months, but most clients stay an average of a year, according to Cashner.

“This is the best I’ve ever been in,” Campanele said. Cashner leans forward and pats Campanele on the shoulder.

“I’m signing Wayne here up for classes tomorrow morning,” Cashner said with a wide smile. Campanele is planning to attend beauty school.

“I feel motivated,” Campanele said. “Like I have a purpose.”

Cashner hopes that every client leaves the Sanctuary House with a job or ready to start school. The most important thing is that they have something waiting for them when they leave.

“If you want to take classes, I will help you,” Cashner said. “Don’t worry about money. I will find a way. You can believe that.”

Cashner stands up and begins walking a brick path around the Sanctuary House, through a fence and more gardens. He shows off the poolside area, situated perfectly under the shade of multiple palm trees and fully furnished. That’s not how it looked five years ago.

In December of 2008, the cracked concrete of a hollowed out pool was buried in the shadows of a large, yellow bulldozer. No trees. No furniture. The city was planning on knocking down what is now Cashner’s sanctuary.

“It was the most unattractive building in the neighborhood,” Cashner described it. And he wanted it.

To Cashner, it wasn’t just a crack house; it was a project. It was taking this decrepit, old house, a breeding ground for bad habits, and turning it into a safe place — into a home.

The couple bought their sanctuary before it was destroyed, but it was hardly habitable.

“The place was so bad when we first got it that it took me and James two months with a metal detector to find all the needles buried in the rubble,” Cashner said.

They did the repairs themselves and still do to this day along with managing the business end of the Sanctuary House.

“If there’s a leak in the house, it comes down to me and a plumber’s wrench,” Cashner said.

It took years to clean every apartment in the house and make all of the repairs. There are still a few repairs, as Cashner points out. A few doors jam and the roof needs work done — everything seems minor in comparison to the first repairs.

“Once we got the first big hurdles out the way, it was easy,” Sanzeri said. “We still keep busy, but we’re dedicated and we love it.”

Cashner pointed out a building across the road while speaking with SFGN. A few weeks ago, he recognized a drug dealer in the nearby building. As a 49-year-old retired court reporter, Cashner works closely with local police and local courts. He had the man removed from the building by police, simply by pointing him out..

“I had him out of there so quick,” Cashner chuckled.

“See this,” he said pointing at a bench in the gardens just behind the main building of the property. It was a gray marble bench engraved “Joseph ‘Buddy’ Sanzeri,” in memory of Sanzeri’s older brother who died at the age of 15 from drug abuse.

“I’ll be damned if I ever let a drug dealer anywhere near this property,” Cashner said.

Sanzeri struggled from drug abuse himself. The 24-year -old has been in recovery for more than five years.

“It’s more than personal to me,” Sanzeri said. “My brother died from drugs. There aren’t many places for these people to go.”

Now he pours all of his time and effort into giving others the chance that his brother never got. If it’s up to him, he’ll be doing this “forever.”

Cashner and his late husband of 18 years adopted a son, who was born to a mother with severe drug and alcohol abuse problems.

“I knew how he was born. I knew he had drugs and alcohol in his system from birth,” Cashner said. “But he was mine the minute they put him in my arms and I knew that, too.”

Both partners have reason to feel close to this cause — close enough that they’ve only taken a total of nine days off in the last five years, they said.

“Someone said to me once ‘you’re not an alcoholic, you’re a workaholic,’” Cashner said laughing.

There are three buildings. The biggest is the main building where the gay men in recovery stay. The couple opened two more for lesbian women, and transgender clients.

He opens the door to one room in the main building. It looked just like the others, furnished with a pull-out couch, small coffee table, and TV.  But this room was different. It was Cashner and Sanzeri’s home when they opened the Sanctuary House.

They spent all of their money and time on the Sanctuary House and ended up living in it with the clients for almost a year.

The couple didn’t intend to open the Sanctuary House, it was a “happy accident,” as Cashner calls it.

One rainy night in November 2008, the couple had a friend who struggled with substance abuse come to them with nowhere to go. They rented an apartment for him and helped him get back on his feet. The friend spoke at a recovery meeting and told others Cashner and Sanzeri brought him.

“It had a snowball effect,” Sanzeri said. “We weren’t just getting one or two calls about clients. It was more.”

Before they knew it, the Sanctuary House that could hold only three clients grew to house up to 41 clients.

“We’re planning on expanding the back end of the property to make room for more bed space,” Cashner said.

With Cashner’s close relationships to local judges and the police department, he gets calls constantly asking if they have room for just one more client.

The Sanctuary House grew rapidly, and before Cashner could see it coming, so did the bills. The couple sold what they could to keep the Sanctuary afloat, including their engagement rings, before their luck began to turn around.

They began receiving private donations from community members that wanted to support the cause. In September 2012, the couple opened a thrift shop just two blocks away from the Sanctuary House. All of the proceeds from the thrift store go towards funding for the Sanctuary House. According to Cashner, the thrift store makes about $8,000 a month.

With all of the money coming in from donations and the thrift store, Cashner and Sanzeri are able to offer bed space at the Sanctuary House to clients for $17.36 per day.

More people also volunteered their time to the cause as it grew. The Sanctuary built a staff of 13 unpaid volunteers. People like Eliana Dole volunteered their time.

Dole has been volunteering with the Sanctuary for over three weeks now, as their newest volunteer. She wandered into the Sanctuary House Thrift Store one day and immediately fell in love with the cause.

“When they told me about what they were doing, I thought it was incredible,” Dole said. Dole helps run the thrift store with Sanzeri.

“They just want to help others and it’s amazing,” Dole said. “If I can help someone to not hurt anymore, then I will.”

The Sanctuary House was recently recognized as a public charity in late April. The couple applied two years ago in order to work with other nonprofits and become eligible to apply for grants.

“Now, we’re in talks about upcoming grants,” Cashner said. He’s more hopeful now than ever.

Cashner doubles back to the front of the Sanctuary House. He fiddles with the engagement ring on his left hand, twisting around his ring finger. The couple bought the pawned rings back years ago. They’re getting married at the end of June in Long Island.

“We’re finally going to take a vacation,” Cashner said laughing.

He reminisces on the changes endured since they first pawned the rings off.

“There were no toilets in the space,” Cashner laughed. “The first year was spent making it habitable. The second was spent making it beautiful. Now, it truly is a sanctuary.”

For more information about the Sanctuary House of S. Florida, visit

For questions about bed space at the Sanctuary House or to make a donation, contact Jared Cashner or (954) 882-8363.

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Another day at Sanctuary House, in Wilton Manors (Ft Lauderdale)

At the Sanctuary House, we are committed to providing a safe, caring and sober environment for men in recovery. We are committed to improving the lives of individuals who are ready to return to independence and to providing them with structure, stability; and the tools and confidence needed to live a life absent of alcohol and drug dependency. It is our goal to create awareness in the community through education and prevention programs and to maintaining the highest level of fiscal responsibility in all areas of service.


The Sanctuary House was founded in 2008 by Jared Cashner, a retired 17-year criminal court reporter and James Sanzeri, who saw the need for a transitional living facility specifically for men, with emphasis on gay men and their unique needs, after the death of his only sibling, at age 15, from drugs.  Now, he works to save lives.

The Sanctuary House sits on a sprawling acre of land in the heart of Wilton Manors, one of South Florida’s most heavily populated gay areas. It is made up of three buildings and can currently house 28 individuals. The facilities offer apartment-style living in a serene, tropical landscaped environment. Residents receive weekly random drug testing, nearby case management services, client advocacy, and HIV testing and counseling. Partnered with local hospitals and other non-profit groups, the Sanctuary House provides assistance to men with HIV and other health and mental health issues.

Constantly growing to meet the ever-changing needs of the community, the Sanctuary House now operates an emergency Food Bank, and provides a variety of education and prevention programs as well as support groups.  This what we do.

Something to celebrate

From the Desk of Jared Cashner, CCR, N.P.

It’s hard to believe that Sanctuary House is coming up on our third year assisting our community and to date, more than 160 men, since opening in December 2008.  As the only gay sober living facility in Florida, we’ve worked to improve the lives of those who simply have had enough of drugs and alcohol.  This pilot program has re-written the format by which many have taken notice at the innovative approach taken in the logistics of our program.  Additionally, Sanctuary House of S. Florida is proud to finally announce the purchase of our fourth building that will be dedicated to our lesbian community, again, attempting to impact another segment of our diverse community.  Sanctuary House is much more than a halfway house, but rather home to more than 40 members of the gay community.

The Hammer and Nails of Sanctuary House, South Florida

Tuesday, 23 November 2010 15:33 Written by Tony Adams
Have you ever pawned your wedding rings to pay someone else’s electric bill? Have you ever sold your beloved ’02 Thunderbird to house the homeless? Have you ever exhausted your retirement cash to continue your community service? There are two guys in Wilton Manors who can answer yes to those questions and have pawned their rings twice to keep 116 NW 25th Street afloat. In a town dedicated to dazed relaxation, there is much to admire in Jared Cashner, a retired court stenographer and son of a Kentucky coal miner, and James Sanzeri, a strikingly handsome 21 year old local man wise beyond his age, who have been a couple for two and one half years and are the founders and operators of the two year old Sanctuary House, a transitional residence providing sober and safe living for gay men in recovery.
Sanctuary House, one of the oldest structures in Wilton Manors and recently an abandoned crack house, is now a sprawling and comfortable collection of buildings on an acre of land that is divided into apartments each housing two or three men in shared bedrooms with common kitchens, baths, living space, gardens and a pool. Jared and James, who operate Sanctuary House without any other staff, live on the filled-to-capacity premises and are constantly forced to turn away applicants due to lack of space. (The size of the property would allow for the construction of several additional apartments should funds ever materialize.)
Jared and James are committed to helping gay men who are ready to return to independence and to providing them with structure, stability and the tools and confidence needed to live a life without alcohol and drug dependency. The minimum stay is three months and there are rules.
How and why would a retired stenographer and his very young partner, neither or whom have formal training as counselors or care-givers, establish a vibrant place like Sanctuary House? Jared explains “We had a friend who was down and out but willing to do some work for us. We were hesitant about inviting him to live in our home but rented him an apartment on NW 25th Street. He knew other men who had been through addiction and asked us if we could help them as well. We kept renting more space. That is how it began. Now we are partners with the Wilton Manors police, and with the local community service agencies, and with our residents’ case managers.”
Sanctuary House has rapidly grown by word of mouth among gay men needing assistance, and is such a desirable place to be that some straight men have falsely claimed to be gay trying to gain admission.
Jared and James approached the owners of the building, Steven and Andy Fisk of CitY First Mortgage of Hollywood, who helped them acquire it. Jared is grateful to them for their assistance. “They told us to give them whatever down payment we could manage and to make whatever monthly payments we could manage. They are extremely understanding about our circumstances, and they – and the whole neighborhood – are delighted with the transformation of the property.”
Some additional prying was needed to get these self-effacing men to discuss their personal lives that are the skeleton keys to Sanctuary House.
Jared fell into drug addiction following the hospitalization that led to his early retirement, and eventually was tried before a judge for whom he had once worked. She gave him back his life and he has kept his promise to stay clean. “I grew up in a very poor family. One of eleven kids. My mother was a stern woman and I guess the way I run this place makes me a lot like her. I’m strict about our rules. Mandatory 11PM curfew. No drugs or alcohol or sex on the premises. Random and regular testing. Group meetings. But my mother always put in an extra half acre of garden just to grow food to give away. She made us work that garden and taught us the value of helping those who need it.”
James, who grew up in Sunrise, lost a brother to addiction and has himself been through recovery twice. He met Jared through mutual friends and would not take no for an answer when Jarod repeatedly refused to date him. He soon brought him home to meet the folks.
Sanctuary House is at a critical juncture. James is its constant operations manager and Jared who works an additional job as a package courier is close to exhaustion and not without health problems. They receive no government funds but are in line for a HOPWA (Housing Opportunities For Persons With AIDS) grant if they can make some required improvements to the property. Their small board of directors includes police office Paul Nash who has been generous with his time, sometimes substituting for them as manager. (James and Jared have taken only one vacation, an overnight to a campground.) Attorney George Castrataro is providing pro bono help with the paperwork needed for 501c3 certification. Every piece of furniture, all the cabinetry, tiling and plantings are donations.
A brief tour of Sanctuary House with introductions to a few of its happy and hopeful residents will teach you the deeper meaning of gay pride which goes beyond waving rainbow flags to combat inequality and has more to do with the personal fight against the private demons that can ruin our lives were it not for men like Jared and James, who are not complaining when they say “We are the hammer and nails of this place, but we need some serious help.” In this season of Thanksgiving, please consider Sanctuary House. They won’t mind your visit and five minutes with these men will leave you eager to support their great work.
For more information,

Relapse Prevention 954-882-8363



Many people find they they can stay sober for short periods of time, but after awhile, they relapse.  A lot of people are chronic relapsers, staying sober for a month or a couple of months, only to begin the cycle of using again. For many, relapse is only a paycheck away.

Research shows that only 1 person out of 10 will stay sober a year or more after successfully completing a 28 day program.

We have seen many people relapse over the years. We have also seen many people succeed and stay sober. While those who stayed sober were different in many ways, such as race, socioeconomic status, sexual orientation, etc., they all had some things in common.

Those who maintained long-term sobriety attended 12 step meetings, lived in a structured sober house for 3-6 months after treatment, had a sponsor and engaged in sober activities in the broader community; activities such as volunteering.

The structure at Sanctuary House is based on years of experience learning by watching addicts in recovery.

If you would like to maximize your chances for long term sobriety, and enjoy your life while doing so, give us a call.  Sanctuary House may be just what you’re looking for.

Good Luck and Stay Sober!